My darlings,
PantyMistress / X-traordinary Talk! closed on June 1st, 2009, after 16 wonderful years in business. The sweet notes below would lead anyone to believe that I gave and gave, that I was the Mother Teresa of fetishists. But that's not true. It's you who gave. Because of you I discovered much about my own sexuality and about the various and wonderful ways sexuality finds expression. I also learned that, even though these are wonderful, it's not enough to be turned on and it's not enough to "get off." The truth is that even while we think we just want a vehicle to express our fantasies, we deeply want (and need) understanding, acceptance, and celebration of ourselves as sexual beings.
Life is ultimately about the people we connect with and connecting with you - some of you quite deeply indeed - has been my greatest gift of PantyMistress.
I've received so many letters from you over the years and a flood here at the very end. Many of you ask why I'm closing PantyMistress. The truth is, I simply want new business challenges. I live in the Caribbean now and am building a little holiday rental business ... it's not "better," it's not certainly not "more fun" than PantyMistress ... it's simply different, and it provides a new challenge.
Here are a handful of your farewell letters to me following my final Dear Jane advice column, entitled, "Sex Lessons for Boys Who Need It Bad." How you - and your words - make my heart sing! ....... For 16 years you've made my heart sing. I remember the very first letter you ever wrote me, 16 years ago, pre-Internet. You had ordered my very first audio cassette fantasies. You wrote, "Thank you, Jane. Your class shows."
Well, yours does, too, my sweet loves. Thank you.
Warm panties forever,
Jane Vargas, Ph.D.
janevargasphd@gmail.com
This is wonderful advice and as always, perfectly written. Bittersweet, but I can see you feel it's time to move to other things. I'm glad you're closing, not selling. PantyMistress lives on in my fantasies.
I haven't purchased any product from you but I read everything you've written. The letter you wrote today was right on target and truly from the heart. I wish you and your colleages, friends & family the very best. Although I have never met you I feel like we have been life long friends.
Thank You, Jane. I need to be reminded from time to time that wearing thigh high stockings and silky camisoles around the house doesn't make me the sexual deviate that most people would make me believe (sadly, my wife included) Good Luck in your future endeavors, I for one, will miss your web site and your column.
Jane, I can't believe you're closing up shop. It was clear you always enjoyed what you were doing. Your enthusiasm and acceptance of crossdressers was simply great. I still remember the wonderful phone conversation we had a number of years ago when you were compiling research on crossdressing.If you ever get to Carmel in July during the Bach Festival, let me know. I would love to meet you. All the best to you dear woman.
Thank you so much for being you and sharing it with the rest of us. I just adore your sexy, compassionate and elegant online persona, it is very close to the real you, I am sure! I wish you all the best in whatever you choose to do next. I will miss you.
Oh, I'm sorry you moved on. I love this closing letter - it's just great. All I can say is You aced that chapter of your life!!!
Although sad to know your leaving us, it's great that your moving on into the next phase of your life, which is what life is all about. Your email with the 10 points of info was very sweet of you to pass along, some excellent advise, especially how to "come out" to one's partner. You will be missed but NEVER forgotten. Your legacy remains in your teachings and wisdom about our wonderful fetishes, and in your videos which are truly amazing and "spot on" in capturing our fantasies. I bid you "warm in panties" all the best as you move on and thank you for being there for closet panty boys such as myself. Tenting in Panties.............
While I've enjoyed your fantasies, Jane, I have thoroughly even more enjoyed and benefited from ... guess what ... your sage advise. I am moved to write you this morning, as I have just read your Final Dear Jane column, "ten sex lessons". I cannot assert strongly enough how greatly I believe that each one of these thoughts is written with incredible insight and great experience gleaned over the years. I also believe each is correct, as I have come to most of them on my own. I do thank you from the bottom of my submissive, sissy heart for being there for us and for expressing these ideas as we part. I do wish you the very best of good fortune, Jane.
Panty Mistress Jane
I have enjoyed your column and website for many years... i am saddened by your decision to close it down... I would like to take this opportunity to thank you for educating me in the nature of my "deviant" behaviors and encouraging me to embrace that aspect of my sexuality. Your final message is a treasure.
I hope you will remember that I promised to share a margarita with you on a sunny tropical beach... that offer remains open.
Dear Dr. Vargas,
Just wanted to say thank you for the years of teasing fun and sound, intelligent advice you've provided to those of us in this niche community. Your closing will certainly leave a void and you will be missed. I wish you the very best in your future endeavors and know that you will continue to help people. I have fully accepted my unique sexuality and would not change a thing thanks to you. I agree that balance in life is very important. Take take of yourself dear.
Dearest Jane:
I just placed a bargain bin order. As a keepsake. The hard work and devotion you put into xtratalk can never be replaced! By anyone! Ever! Thank you for the many years that you gave of yourself to give us a safe and wonderful place to grow pun intended and explore our fantasies safely. I wish you and yours all the happiness you so well deserve! I have no doubt that you will succeed in anything you choose! You rock! you really rock! It's been hard pun intended. to place this last order! Good bye! and good luck to you and your partner!
Also good bye to your wonderful staff who are just awesome! Thank you! Thank you so much!
My Esteemed Jane,
The irony of the juxtaposition between David Carradine's death and the closing of X-Traordinary Talk causes me to express my appreciation for your work again. A closet. Of course. That's where we all have been. Our sexual drive, tempered with our fear of exposure, drives us into our closets. Then some of us found X-Tradordinary Talk, a fantasy playhouse with imaginary playmates and all kinds of toys, where we felt safely accepted and humored by friends.
(A momentary disgression. Other playhouses exist, but I often sence the greed, anger, contempt and loathing which hides behind the curtains. A place of safety is difficult to find and, after failed attempts, results in having a closet.)
Anyway, Doctor, what a wonderful therapy room you created. A place where the hidden sexual compulsions could be safely explored and finally accepted. I believe that you have been at the cutting edge of internet therapy, one which existed via patient billing, rather than insurance billing. The APA should be appreciative, but I suspect they would never understand the concept.
Finally, I regret what I suspect has been a "sucession" problem, the inability to find anyone whom a business owner believes is sufficient qualified to take over the business. I've built 3 business which were ultimately closed for that reason. I could never find/develope anyone that I trusted to keep my vision of the business going. Darn. I wish you had found one.
Anyway, best of wishes for the future. I will miss what you created.
©2009 X-traordinary Talk!